Yesterday was one....a difficult day.
We had plans to go to a hot air balloon festival in a town a couple hours away. Mother Nature had other ideas. It was rainy and wet so they cancelled everything early on in the morning. We hung around the house for a bit and then decided to hit the cheap seats for Toy Story 3.
We put the littles down for a nap so that they were reasonably rested before the movie. That went ok. They took their naps and we woke them a little early so we could get going. We got to the movie just at start time so we could avoid sitting in the theater for too long beforehand. We got popcorn and drinks and headed on in. Got seats and sat to get watching. The movie was awesome, I cried like a baby at the end, and the kids all did pretty well. The littles got up some and wandered in between Brad and I but overall they were awesome. I had some pretty bad times at movies with Josey when she was little so I was terribly apprehensive about taking all three kids. It really was a great experience though.
Afterwards we had a couple of errands to run. Needed to get new trailer lights for the boat trailer, a few gluten free things from the store and also stopped to look at getting a battery for the kids ride on John Deere play tractor. Here is where things went wrong.
We got in the van after the movie and all was ok. The kids had run around the lobby of the movie theater a little afterwards and each got to ride one machine ride. We walked to the van talking about the movie and how we all enjoyed it.
We stopped at a local hardware store to see if they carried the lights that Brad needed. They were a no-go. Kids were ok so far. Then on the way out Brady saw a car-cart that he had to get into. We let him sit in it and then told him it was time to go. Ok. crisis averted. he was ok with that. We get outside and I tell him he has to hold my hand to cross the street and get to the van and that was not ok with him. Screaming and kicking, doing the limp thing while I am holding his hand, we make our way to the car. I let go of his hand and let him walk the rest of the safe way to the car. He refuses to get in on my side of the van, where his seat is, and walks to the other side. ok. fine. I go to put him in his seat and he loses it. screaming and hitting and yelling. I get him in his seat, trying to calmly talk to him and let him know that his behavior is not acceptable but he does have to be buckled into his seat.
We head to the next place. He is saying something that sounds like "outside" but we are not 100% sure that is the case. Again with the talking calmly letting him know that we will go outside when we stop again but it is just not cutting it. He is screaming a scream that defies explanation. There are no words to do the noise justice. It is painful to the ears and grates on the nerves horrifically. We get to the battery store and take everyone in. He sits down outside the van to refuse to go in but has stopped screaming. I give him a bear hug, something I know can sometimes calm him, and then we go in to the store. He calms briefly to wander the store. We find out what we need to know and head on out.
We get back in the van and again he begins screaming the death scream. He is pissed off about something. I am not sure what. This happens all the way to the next location. We needed to hit the grocery store so that I could get some gluten free things. Things went ok at the store. Brad followed the kids around so that they could walk and not be put in the cart. Brady does not tolerate the cart well anyway. I shopped to get some specific chewy things. Natural gum that comes in very small pieces, think square peas, some fruit leather and some gummy bears. All gluten free with natural sweeteners and colors. We try to corral the kids and again things go wrong. It was about here that my memory gets fuzzy because I too began to melt down.
We got back to the van and gave the kids a pack of the gummy bears. Brady settles down and goes to chewing like a mad man. Obviously all the kids got quiet with their snacks but his seemed different. We ran the other errand we had and then made it home ok. All in one piece and with little to no upset due to having the chewy items. Brady got a piece of the gum on the way home too. and chewed and chewed and chewed it all the way home. I suppose one could pose the argument that he was quiet and calm since he had something in his mouth but I disagree that it was just because his mouth was occupied. I cannot quite articulate it but I think it is different for him.
After we got home things got a little crazy. Josey and Lucey were tired and hungry too. Josey threw a fit once we got home but settled reasonably quickly once reasoned with. I made the kids dinner. Josey and Lucey sat down and ate. They were able to transition to eating with no problems. Brady could not sit still. He would eat a bite then get up and run around. Then he would run to where Brad was sitting and would mess with him. He would go back and sit down, take a bite and then get right back up and run around like his pants were on fire messing with everyone and everything. He could not settle.
I finally got him to eat by sitting next to him and holding his hand while he ate. We got jammies on and put the kids to bed. He got up about 30 minutes later and laid with Daddy on the couch for a bit then went back to bed. He got up at 4:30 this morning and told me he was awake. I said absolutely not and had him crawl into bed with me.
The thing about Brady is that he does not sleep alone, whether in bed with me or not. He has his beloved pillow, a moose, a small stuffed chihuahua, a Matchbox truck, a Lightening McQueen and his "chewy". Yep...pretty extensive list but if it is not all there he will not sleep. I ended up sleeping with my hand over my head holding onto everything except the pillow and the moose. We did get a couple more hours though.
Seems like the nights after the bad days are not good sleeping nights for him. I wanted to describe our day yesterday for a few reasons. 1.) I needed to decompress from it because I was in tears last night after it was all said and done. 2.) I want a record of these events and days for reference. 3.) I want to be able to share it in general so that others know what I am talking about whenever I do actually talk about it.
It has taken me a while to get this written so I am going to post it and go to the store with the girls. Brady and Brad are fishing. He was thrilled to get to go with Daddy today. Love seeing the smile on his face when he leaves.
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September 26, 2010
September 22, 2010
A good day in the neighborhood
So today is starting off good, albeit early. It is Wednesday and we have nothing going on until after school. Josey has a dentist appt. and then we will have dinner with some friends who are watching the littles for me while Josey is at the dentist.
I am still trying to get a handle on, or feel like I even understand, Brady's SPD(sensory processing disorder). It is a daily struggle to try to stay a step ahead of him and what he may need. Or to just curb any meltdowns or problems before they happen. So the occupational therapist thought that perhaps Brady could benefit from this technique called "brushing" or the Wilbarger Protocol. Basically I have a surgical scrub brush, which has very soft flexible bristles, and am to use that to apply deep pressure on his arms, back and legs. Then to do joint compressions for counts of ten. After that we do "heavy play". This is anything from wheelbarrows, push-ups(on wall or with me) or pushing totes or laundry baskets with some heavier contents around. He will also push his "brushing stool" around or take books from one place to another. There are various things we can do for the heavy play. We have started this therapy. It is recommended that it be done every 2 hours for about 2-3 weeks. After that the frequency can decrease to a few times a day with definite use before an activity that may be difficult for him to get through. He seems to like it so far, was doing it to himself not long after our first time this morning, so we shall see how things go.
Josey is at school and the littles are doing their thing. I am going to get some breakfast and then fold some clothes I think. you know...fun stuff like that.
I am still trying to get a handle on, or feel like I even understand, Brady's SPD(sensory processing disorder). It is a daily struggle to try to stay a step ahead of him and what he may need. Or to just curb any meltdowns or problems before they happen. So the occupational therapist thought that perhaps Brady could benefit from this technique called "brushing" or the Wilbarger Protocol. Basically I have a surgical scrub brush, which has very soft flexible bristles, and am to use that to apply deep pressure on his arms, back and legs. Then to do joint compressions for counts of ten. After that we do "heavy play". This is anything from wheelbarrows, push-ups(on wall or with me) or pushing totes or laundry baskets with some heavier contents around. He will also push his "brushing stool" around or take books from one place to another. There are various things we can do for the heavy play. We have started this therapy. It is recommended that it be done every 2 hours for about 2-3 weeks. After that the frequency can decrease to a few times a day with definite use before an activity that may be difficult for him to get through. He seems to like it so far, was doing it to himself not long after our first time this morning, so we shall see how things go.
Josey is at school and the littles are doing their thing. I am going to get some breakfast and then fold some clothes I think. you know...fun stuff like that.
May 25, 2010
catch up
I was so determined to keep this blog going and up to date....oops!
We have had a busy busy month.
We took a 10 day trip to FL, continued working with the case worker and ST for Brady, managed play dates with pre-school and other errands of necessity, dealt with a few illnesses and recently toured a farm with Llamas and Great Pyrenees rescue dogs. It has been a full month.
Josey graduates from pre-school on Thursday the 27th. From what I understand there will be graduate caps and tassels....and probably tears. I am not sad so much that she is graduating but amazed to see her growing before my very eyes. She is such a sweet thoughtful girl who can also be headstrong and difficult. I love her fierce independence, or try to anyway since I hope it will serve her well as she gets older and has to be strong enough to maintain her values despite peer pressure. I know I may sound a little silly but we all know that happens way earlier these days...She starts Kindergarten in the fall and she is thrilled. She is still the craftiest little thing and almost always makes stuff for friends and family before herself. I love that about her.
Lucey is growing into a little bit of an attitude. She is a middle child through and through. She works to make sure that she gets attention and is heard. Trust me on that one...she IS heard. *wink wink* She loves animals, as do the other kiddos, and when we toured the farm last week she was excited to see the goats, llamas and dogs. If I could have bottled her giggle and squeals of delight while she played with them I would have. She is a joy, when she wants to be. Fits are her latest "thing" and they never cease to frustrate me. She is loud I tell ya....L-O-U-D!
Brady is coming along in leaps and bounds. He is picking up new words here and there. I think that the GF/CF diet is helping him quite a bit, seems to anyway. We are meeting with an OT next week to discuss some sensory issues he seems to have, we'll see how that goes. He was right in there with the girls feeding the goats last week. Petting the llamas and chasing cats. He enjoys being outside and is in love with a tractor I bought at a garage sale a year or so ago. Too bad it does not currently run....we are looking for a new battery for it. Otherwise he enjoys riding the bajillion other toys we have. He likes to water the plants too.
Here is a list of words for him currently. I will copy and paste his old list and use an asterisk(*) to note new words. Parentheses( ) indicate how he actually says the word. I am not sure that this is terribly important except that some words are much more clear these days so I think I like these phonetic notes to compare to later. Also of note is that some of these words are used and noted during ST or work with the CW but not necessarily used on a day to day basis.
mom
daddy
sissy
no
uppy (ut-ee)
shoes (sooes)
fish (feesh)
drink
night (nigh)
bye (die)
baby
eat
cheese(he does not use this one anymore since he does not get cheese)
more(he is trying so hard to enunciate this word anymore. it is precious)
please (pease)
cookie* (oo-kie)
butt*
moon* (oon)
bubble*
apple*
car* (ar)
me* ( while pointing to his chest. it is adorable!)
Oscar* (us-ar) This is our dog's name.
boat*
pillow* (i-ow) Basically pillow without the "p" and the "ll". He is extremely attached to a pillow.
banana* (na-a)
uh-oh*
bug* (ug)
sit* (zit)
I think that is it. I am pretty sure. His speech is still pretty limited. He is trying. We will look at his progress again in August and then October and decide what more the AEA can do with/for him at that time. The two basic choices will be either speech groups, which meet 3 times a month for about half an hour, or 3yo pre-school which would meet Mon-Thurs for 3 hours daily. We go to the University of Iowa on June 8 for his evaluation with the CDD down there. Until then we are still working weekly with the case worker or ST on alternating weeks. He is a very affectionate little guy when he wants to be too. Every night before going to bed he tells us all "nigh" and gives hugs.
That has us all caught up I am pretty sure. Later I will upload some pictures to share with you all of our vacation and the farm tour.
We have had a busy busy month.
We took a 10 day trip to FL, continued working with the case worker and ST for Brady, managed play dates with pre-school and other errands of necessity, dealt with a few illnesses and recently toured a farm with Llamas and Great Pyrenees rescue dogs. It has been a full month.
Josey graduates from pre-school on Thursday the 27th. From what I understand there will be graduate caps and tassels....and probably tears. I am not sad so much that she is graduating but amazed to see her growing before my very eyes. She is such a sweet thoughtful girl who can also be headstrong and difficult. I love her fierce independence, or try to anyway since I hope it will serve her well as she gets older and has to be strong enough to maintain her values despite peer pressure. I know I may sound a little silly but we all know that happens way earlier these days...She starts Kindergarten in the fall and she is thrilled. She is still the craftiest little thing and almost always makes stuff for friends and family before herself. I love that about her.
Lucey is growing into a little bit of an attitude. She is a middle child through and through. She works to make sure that she gets attention and is heard. Trust me on that one...she IS heard. *wink wink* She loves animals, as do the other kiddos, and when we toured the farm last week she was excited to see the goats, llamas and dogs. If I could have bottled her giggle and squeals of delight while she played with them I would have. She is a joy, when she wants to be. Fits are her latest "thing" and they never cease to frustrate me. She is loud I tell ya....L-O-U-D!
Brady is coming along in leaps and bounds. He is picking up new words here and there. I think that the GF/CF diet is helping him quite a bit, seems to anyway. We are meeting with an OT next week to discuss some sensory issues he seems to have, we'll see how that goes. He was right in there with the girls feeding the goats last week. Petting the llamas and chasing cats. He enjoys being outside and is in love with a tractor I bought at a garage sale a year or so ago. Too bad it does not currently run....we are looking for a new battery for it. Otherwise he enjoys riding the bajillion other toys we have. He likes to water the plants too.
Here is a list of words for him currently. I will copy and paste his old list and use an asterisk(*) to note new words. Parentheses( ) indicate how he actually says the word. I am not sure that this is terribly important except that some words are much more clear these days so I think I like these phonetic notes to compare to later. Also of note is that some of these words are used and noted during ST or work with the CW but not necessarily used on a day to day basis.
mom
daddy
sissy
no
uppy (ut-ee)
shoes (sooes)
fish (feesh)
drink
night (nigh)
bye (die)
baby
eat
cheese(he does not use this one anymore since he does not get cheese)
more(he is trying so hard to enunciate this word anymore. it is precious)
please (pease)
cookie* (oo-kie)
butt*
moon* (oon)
bubble*
apple*
car* (ar)
me* ( while pointing to his chest. it is adorable!)
Oscar* (us-ar) This is our dog's name.
boat*
pillow* (i-ow) Basically pillow without the "p" and the "ll". He is extremely attached to a pillow.
banana* (na-a)
uh-oh*
bug* (ug)
sit* (zit)
I think that is it. I am pretty sure. His speech is still pretty limited. He is trying. We will look at his progress again in August and then October and decide what more the AEA can do with/for him at that time. The two basic choices will be either speech groups, which meet 3 times a month for about half an hour, or 3yo pre-school which would meet Mon-Thurs for 3 hours daily. We go to the University of Iowa on June 8 for his evaluation with the CDD down there. Until then we are still working weekly with the case worker or ST on alternating weeks. He is a very affectionate little guy when he wants to be too. Every night before going to bed he tells us all "nigh" and gives hugs.
That has us all caught up I am pretty sure. Later I will upload some pictures to share with you all of our vacation and the farm tour.
March 24, 2010
Eyes, Nose and Mouth...Oh my!
ok...so yesterday was a down day. I had a headache, I was tired and was having a tough time watching Brady struggle.
I want to turn my view point around today so I thought I would blog about some great news concerning Brady and some funnies from the girls.
Brady has never been able to point out body parts, most specifically his face. Lucey has been doing this for months. Many months. So we have been working with him more. He has finally been doing it! YAYYY! It started by me asking where his eyes were and he would blink them. Ask him about his nose and he would wrinkle it. Move to the mouth and he would open it. Now though he is full on pointing to them. I am over the moon! I keep asking the poor kid to show me. I am sure he is tired of it by now. He also makes noises with each one. The only one close enough for others to understand is "eyes" and he says that one pretty spot on. The nose and mouth need work but he knows where they are so I am gonna take it. Just watch your eyes because he is none to gentle when showing you where yours are.
Lucey is exploding with her words and phrases and such lately. it is amusing to listen to her too because of course she is a little sponge and she picks up on everything she hears. some of the cute things out of her mouth? "I awake. get drink, snack now?" When we get somewhere and she has taken off her shoes and socks in her carseat, as has Brady, she looks at me and says, "shoes, socks off. Bubs too Mom." and her favorite..."I want uppy."
I am trying my hardest to make sure to celebrate her words as hard as I am working on Brady's. I suppose for any mom with one child needing some help that balance is a tough one but I think having two the same age sometimes adds to my difficulties.
Josey is all about school and learning. Which is awesome. We recently found a website with a camera in an owlhouse 24/7. She is constantly asking for me to "turn the owl on". She will sit and watch to see what Molly the owl is doing. What is she eating. How many babies have hatched etc. They are studying balls at school. *giggle giggle* She is bargaining with me about which of her balls she wants to take. I think I will have to buckle today and let her take her "princess" one since that is the one she is fixated on.
Ok...so we have gymnastics this morning, school after that(my turn to carpool) and then Zumba this evening. so we have a busy day ahead. off to get it started.
I want to turn my view point around today so I thought I would blog about some great news concerning Brady and some funnies from the girls.
Brady has never been able to point out body parts, most specifically his face. Lucey has been doing this for months. Many months. So we have been working with him more. He has finally been doing it! YAYYY! It started by me asking where his eyes were and he would blink them. Ask him about his nose and he would wrinkle it. Move to the mouth and he would open it. Now though he is full on pointing to them. I am over the moon! I keep asking the poor kid to show me. I am sure he is tired of it by now. He also makes noises with each one. The only one close enough for others to understand is "eyes" and he says that one pretty spot on. The nose and mouth need work but he knows where they are so I am gonna take it. Just watch your eyes because he is none to gentle when showing you where yours are.
Lucey is exploding with her words and phrases and such lately. it is amusing to listen to her too because of course she is a little sponge and she picks up on everything she hears. some of the cute things out of her mouth? "I awake. get drink, snack now?" When we get somewhere and she has taken off her shoes and socks in her carseat, as has Brady, she looks at me and says, "shoes, socks off. Bubs too Mom." and her favorite..."I want uppy."
I am trying my hardest to make sure to celebrate her words as hard as I am working on Brady's. I suppose for any mom with one child needing some help that balance is a tough one but I think having two the same age sometimes adds to my difficulties.
Josey is all about school and learning. Which is awesome. We recently found a website with a camera in an owlhouse 24/7. She is constantly asking for me to "turn the owl on". She will sit and watch to see what Molly the owl is doing. What is she eating. How many babies have hatched etc. They are studying balls at school. *giggle giggle* She is bargaining with me about which of her balls she wants to take. I think I will have to buckle today and let her take her "princess" one since that is the one she is fixated on.
Ok...so we have gymnastics this morning, school after that(my turn to carpool) and then Zumba this evening. so we have a busy day ahead. off to get it started.
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